what a man want in a relationship.

I have read a lot of articles about what women want in a relationship. But I have never read any article about what men wants in a relationship. And i thought to myself.  Men must need something from women that have nothing to do with  the s-word. You all will agree with me that a relationship require both a man and a woman. I am talking about an actual relationship involving two mature individual, who both have emotions. In this post, I will try my best to put together things I have heard and learnt. Some of my point will be from think like a man and act like a lady. Men don’t think the same way women think. Their way of thinking is very much different from a woman. Let me get right to it;

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     They want to be your hero

This is important because, there is no man alive that want to be anything less than a hero in the eyes of his woman or family. He wants to feel invincible as a bread winner in the family or as the man in your life. He can’t make you feel like a goddess or a queen, and you make him feel less than a man.

Example:       Girl; baby, my car is broken and I have to be somewhere as early as 7am tomorrow morning.

Guy; No worries I will be here before then to take you there.

Girl; awwn…..baby you are just the best

That last comment did it. Trust me if you create a space to make a man feel invincible, he will treat you like you deserve.    

    
     “love me for who I am”

They need you to accept them the way they are. Many women make the mistake of trying to mold their     men or change him into something he is not. Learn to accept them with all their faults and little annoying habits i.e. when they say the wrong thing,  get too logical, forget something you said a lot,  leave the toilet seat up e.t.c . Only when you learn to accept them the way they are, will they want and learn to become someone better for you.

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        Express yourself

So many women are very much afraid to tell their men how they feel because they are afraid to “lose him”. The truth is when you don’t express yourself; you leave them in the dark. Not every man is a mind reader. How will he know who you truly are or how you really feel if you don’t tell him? As a couple you overcome adversity by expressing yourself. Holding things in, only builds a wall between you and your partner which leads to your fear “break up”. Believe it or not, your man truly wants to know who you truly are and how you feel.       

         

     
       Lets communicate

Without the c-word, relationship is like a sand that can very easily be washed away by water.  If you want something from them or want them to do something you tell them.  Many girls expect their men to know when you want them to want to do something, without you telling them. Earlier I said men and women think differently, I think I need to point how. Men are logical thinkers, while women are emotional thinkers. If you can be a little bit logical they will match you and be emotional to a level.

          

         Have a life

You didn’t guess this I know.   Can you tell someone you are in a relationship with to get a life? No man or woman wants a woman or a man that doesn’t have their own routine. Have your set of friends, your own activity, passion e.t.c. the main thing there is that, they want you to actually have things in your life that doesn’t involve them. Yes, they feel honored that you want them to be part of everything in your life but a man is a man. And everyman needs his space.  Your relationship should be on two wheels. One is yours. One is theirs. And together you ride.

Believe in him

A man needs his woman to believe in him. a man with a dream will need you to believe in him. in a man’s hunt for success. There will always be the good season and the bad one. Through it all you have to believe that he will get there. It won’t be easy but it will be worth it.  you don’t need to say “I believe in you” for him  to know you actually do. There are different ways for you to pass the message. Lets take a look at this couple.

Guy; baby, i have been thinking about something.

Girl; what is it?

Guy; hmm.....just a business, i plan on establishing.

Girl; tell me about it.

Guy; i want to go into car dealership. But i have not made any plan on how i want to go about it. i just thought i should let  you know.

Girl;  that's very nice of you.

Guy; thanks bae

Girl; i know you will make it, you have what it takes. i will put you in my prayers.

Guy; *touched* am grateful

Girl; no need to be, that's why you have me. i will always have your back.

  

Believe in your man, that’s the best thing you can do for him.

This is all I have been able to come up with. I hope it will be of help to you guys. If you have any contribution or you think differently, please leave a comment below. I will really appreciate it. have a lovely week.

#CHALLENGE4U-ASSESS YOURSELF AND TRY TO APPLY IT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.#

How to have a lovely day.

Many people complain about their day more than they commend it. The reason for this most of the time is the 'U' factor, everyone is entitled to have a lovely day. And it is not something that just happens, you have to first want it before you proceed to follow the steps i am about to give you. I will be taking it one after the other:

1. Dress nicely

             ha-ha....i know some people will be like 'is this girl serious', yes people i said dress nicely and i mean it.By dressing nicely i don't mean wearing the latest Folake Coker or Alexander MacQueen, i mean dressing comfortably. Lemme give an example first to the girls. If you can't walk, sit and stand comfortably in a short or tight dress without you dragging it down or adjusting it from time to time "DON'T WEAR IT". To the guys if you can't walk, sit and stand comfortably in pant that's too tight  on your children bank  "DON'T WEAR IT".  It also goes for everything we put on; shoes, color excetra excetra. its that simple.

2.Wear perfume

              I am putting this after dressing nicely, because it compliments it 100%. you can't dress up all hot, sexy and most importantly comfortably and then smell like sh*t. don't get me wrong, perfume is part of you dress up. it also makes you comfortable which eventually makes you confident with your overall appearance.

3. Wish people a lovely day

           you can't  want something good for yourself and not wish it unto others, people that's what i call being 'UNIVERSALLY SELFISH' and i don't care if that made sense. there is an adage that says do not wish unto others what you don't wish for yourself and vice versa. Don't expect that you will wish someone a bad day and you will have a good one. Its not happening, the universe and God will never give it to you, trust me.

 4.Give lots of compliments

            its still the same as the no 3. You have to give compliments to receive one,if you receive one you give back.

5. Smile at strangers

              you smiling at strangers is not a crime nor a bad thing, in fact its a wonderful thing to do. your smile can help someone have a lovely day, you will never know. Just give it out freely, you
might need it from someone someday.

Its not all but i think i am going to stop here for now, till next time . have a lovely week